there are many realities. what you choose to happen is your free decision in this world. imagine as exits to a freeway. the final destination is your self realization. the time to reach that blissful point has to do with your choices.
have you ever considered why in this life you have so many hardships but also so much happiness? why is there a constant battle to bring a numeric balance between the two? it is all about self improvement. how you act or react on each moment. but here is a big secret: by looking more to happiness… you will be more happy!
the last days I am working on this mantra. try it out.